Don’t postpone being a better dad

You don’t have forever. Time with your kids is very special, so ensure you start from the first day they are born and go on a journey of becoming a good dad to them. Listen to an inspiring story of a stepfather and his children, or read the transcript below.

Don’t postpone being a better dad

One of the things I’ve learned as a doctor and as a dad is that you just don’t have forever – you can’t postpone being a good dad.

Let me tell you about Tim. Tim was a friend of mine – an Olympic champion, a step-dad of two children and a father of two children – absolutely brilliant dad. He inspired me with the way he spent time with his kids, the way he went camping with them, and even though he was a very busy man – and very busy in his sporting leadership as well as business leadership – always had time for his children and step-children, and they adored him.

With his step children, he was brilliant. He said, “Look, I’m not your dad, I understand that and I’m not trying to compete with your dad. I just want to be your friend,” and he was an inspiration to me.

Sadly, he died a few years ago at the age of 53, but I thought: here’s a man who invested heavily, and all of those children will be the beneficiaries of it.

He didn’t postpone life; he didn’t postpone good fathering and step-fathering; he got stuck into it. So don’t imagine you’ve got forever. Dads get stuck into it now – be a better dad, because you never know how long you’ve got.

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Separated dads – additional tips

Everything listed on this website is relevant to separated dads (though some tips, like how to spend time with children, will obviously depend on your shared parenting arrangements).

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Connect with schools electronically

Access your child’s school through their website so you can keep up to date with what is happening. Many schools now offer parent portals where parents can see their child’s results and upcoming assessments, and also contact teachers.