Struggling to accept a child with disabilities

“One of my biggest challenges in life occurred when our first child went to school. With two parents who had university degrees I had always assumed that she would be a bright student. She wasn’t. It was hard to hear the teachers tell us how she was struggling. It was even harder listening to other parents plus relatives brag about their kids’ achievements, and initially in such discussions I would stay quiet. But then I realised that she was special and she was mine and I would rather have her than anyone else, so I learned not to be bashful. I learned to talk matter-of-factly about how she was doing, what she did well and what she didn’t and how talented and special she was in her own unique ways. In fact I’m getting tears in my eyes thinking about her now and how much I love her.” – Anonymous, economist

  • Your child’s academic successes and struggles do not reflect on your level of intelligence
  • Share openly with friends and family about your child and where they are. You never know when someone else may be going through the same thing and is too afraid to say it
  • Be proud of and celebrate the unique gifts and talents of your child!

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