Accept children as they are

Dad hugging his daughter at a wedding

“The number one priority in fathering is to make sure that kids know they are accepted regardless of their performance. That is one of the keys. Our world is performance-driven. Kids will experience this at school, in sport, with girls, everything – only if you perform will you be accepted and liked. But no-one can live up to that ideal. So I bend over backwards to make the kids know that my feelings for them are never based on performance. The other day I got upset with Josh about something and he said to me, ‘Dad, do you still love me when I am bad?’ That’s it. That’s the question. I have to give him a clear, categorical answer to that question in my fathering.” – John Dickson, author, speaker and historian

  • Encourage your child to do their best. But let them know that you love them no matter what
  • When your child fails it is especially important to express your continued love for them
  • You can be proud of your child’s accomplishments, but let them know that your love is not contingent on their success

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Get the rest you need while you are apart from your children

Get enough sleep and look after yourself while you are away from your children so you can make the most of your time together.

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Kids appreciate a proactive father

Being proactive can be as simple as thinking about what your child will need and providing it.