Ask how you can help

“It took me a while to realise that what my girls needed was support from their father rather than lots of instructions. I started off with the ‘usual male bullshit’ of trying to get them to stop mucking around and get on and do what I wanted them to do. They soon told me to stop all of that ‘male, left-brain stuff’ and I realised over a period of time that they really needed my support rather than lectures. I have since learnt that it is best to listen and ask ‘what can I do to help?’ rather than telling them what to do.” – Ken McAullay, corporate manager and former State footballer and cricketer.

  • It’s easy to fall into the habit of telling your child what to do. Try asking how you can help instead.
  • When you find yourself in lecturing mode take a step back and think about how you can be a support.


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Dads and father-figures often find listening hard. Practise focused listening and it will become easier over time.


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