Ask the mum for tips

Mums have developed some good sensors as to how the children feel about dad being away and when you spend time with them. What about asking the children’s mum to identify things they like and things they don’t like about these times.

Remember not to take it as criticism. No need to jump straight into a conversation with the child and seek answers. This is easy to say but harder to do. It is about improving and a chance for you to get a feeling on how you children are coping.

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Encourage your children to share their worries

Listen to your children’s fears and anxieties about the times you are away and reassure them of your love and commitment to them.

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Dealing with boys’ complex emotions

Boys are capable of BIG emotional arcs - here are a few tips on understanding your son's inner world and helping him navigate through these emotions.