Beautiful vs. Pretty

Beauty is both inside and out; prettiness fades. Remember to tell your daughter she is beautiful. This way, you will help build up her confidence. Listen to this podcast by Bruce Robinson, or read the transcript below.

Beautiful vs Pretty

I remember interviewing a very attractive Hollywood actress when I was doing interviews for my books, and she said that because her father had never said she was beautiful, when anyone else said it throughout her life, she thought they were just being kind. It is amazing how a father’s input into whether a girl is beautiful or not affects her for her whole life.

By beauty, I’d like to emphasise that I don’t mean prettiness, because prettiness fades but beauty is very powerful. Of course there’s external beauty and that includes a woman’s smile, her eyes that light up the room, her laughter. But there’s also internal beauty: her heart that has compassion, her mind that thinks clearly and creatively, her kindness.

Speak into a girl’s life and tell her how beautiful she is, and if you’re a father figure you can do that too, and I’m reminded of the movie “Little Miss Sunshine” – Olive, who’s going to a beauty competition where she’s clearly going to be humiliated, and her grandfather reassures her she’s beautiful, and she says, “Grandpa am I pretty?” And her grandpa says, “Olive, you are the most beautiful girl in the whole world.” “Nah, you’re just saying that.” “No, Olive, I’m madly in love with you, and it’s not because of your brains or your personality – you’re beautiful also inside and out.”

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