Father-Child Sex Talk

Listen to this tip from Professor Bruce Robinson, or read the transcript below, on how to talk about sex with your child.

Father-Child Sex Talk

When we ask groups of dads, “Have you had the father-child sex talk?”, when it comes to sons only about 30% have. But even more scaringly, when we ask, “Have you had the father-daughter sex talk?” only 2% of dads have done that.

How is a daughter going to learn about men but from the main man in her life? Of course kids get embarrassed, and at The Fathering Project we’ve got a great tip to help you get past this: you say to them, “Well, I’ve been on The Fathering Project website, and I’ve been to a seminar or I’ve read a book, and they said I have to do this, so please humour me!” I’ve found that works really well.

And when you talk to them, of course there are some facts to talk about – the biology of sex – but more importantly talk about relationships, because kids are under a lot of pressure nowadays for sex to be devoid of relationship, devoid of emotion – there’s things called “hooking up”, etc.

There’s one word that I think is really important when you talk to your kids about sex: it’s the word respect. Respect for your body, respect for theirs, respect for that person, respect for them as a human being and respect for their future.

Tips:

BUST!

BUST is an acronym to help dads remember the key ways they can engage with their children and make a positive difference in their lives.

Tips:

That lingering sense

Make every effort to farewell the children on a high note, as that will be what is remembered most.