How being a good dad benefits you

Credit: Thomas Seeber and family

Credit: Thomas Seeber and family

Trying to be a better dad will benefit you in many ways.

You will:

  • Develop a more ‘human’ image in your workplace.
  • Gain perspective by getting out of the ‘goldfish bowl’ of work for a while.
  • Become a more relaxed, healthy and interesting person by not overworking and becoming stale.
  • Gain a full ‘treasure chest’ of memories and experiences, so you can relax – it’s like knowing you have money in the bank for when you need it.
  • Have a better sex life with your partner.
  • Become good friends with your children more and more as they get older, if you are close to them.
  • Have more meaning, love and acceptance in your life.
  • Rediscover how to play and stay on a learning curve.
  • Be better connected to your community through your children.

At work, you can:

  • Show leadership about the importance of fathering.
  • Encourage men who may be staying late at work in order to avoid something at home to confront these problems.
  • Support men who make decisions to be with their family instead of their work.
  • Encourage good fathering.
  • Make work father-friendly.

Idea for action

Schedule one change per week in your work environment to encourage good parenting.

“During a Test match series I would often sit in a hotel room in Pakistan, where the food is killing me, just thinking about my kids in their sports on the weekends and realising I would not be there. I used to ring the family as often as possible – until the money ran out or the phone was not able to be connected (in India and Pakistan). After games finished I would rush back to the hotel, desperate to ring home. I asked them about their lives. I have to confess that I usually asked them more about their sports than their homework, but I guess that is just the sort of interest I have.” – Geoff Marsh

“When I’m overseas I ring every day. Sometimes I only speak for three minutes, but I ask them what they’re doing. Often, of course, they’re busy, and can’t really say much to me, but it’s important to ring anyway. I always remember the exams they’re doing, their sporting functions and their social events, and I ask them about them.” – Peter Le Soeuf



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