How being a good dad benefits you

Credit: Thomas Seeber and family

Credit: Thomas Seeber and family

Trying to be a better dad will benefit you in many ways.

You will:

  • Develop a more ‘human’ image in your workplace.
  • Gain perspective by getting out of the ‘goldfish bowl’ of work for a while.
  • Become a more relaxed, healthy and interesting person by not overworking and becoming stale.
  • Gain a full ‘treasure chest’ of memories and experiences, so you can relax – it’s like knowing you have money in the bank for when you need it.
  • Have a better sex life with your partner.
  • Become good friends with your children more and more as they get older, if you are close to them.
  • Have more meaning, love and acceptance in your life.
  • Rediscover how to play and stay on a learning curve.
  • Be better connected to your community through your children.

At work, you can:

  • Show leadership about the importance of fathering.
  • Encourage men who may be staying late at work in order to avoid something at home to confront these problems.
  • Support men who make decisions to be with their family instead of their work.
  • Encourage good fathering.
  • Make work father-friendly.

Idea for action

Schedule one change per week in your work environment to encourage good parenting.

“During a Test match series I would often sit in a hotel room in Pakistan, where the food is killing me, just thinking about my kids in their sports on the weekends and realising I would not be there. I used to ring the family as often as possible – until the money ran out or the phone was not able to be connected (in India and Pakistan). After games finished I would rush back to the hotel, desperate to ring home. I asked them about their lives. I have to confess that I usually asked them more about their sports than their homework, but I guess that is just the sort of interest I have.” – Geoff Marsh

“When I’m overseas I ring every day. Sometimes I only speak for three minutes, but I ask them what they’re doing. Often, of course, they’re busy, and can’t really say much to me, but it’s important to ring anyway. I always remember the exams they’re doing, their sporting functions and their social events, and I ask them about them.” – Peter Le Soeuf


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Schedule work around your family

If your work situation requires it, get up earlier in the morning and get a couple of hours work done before having breakfast with the family, or work a couple of hours in the evening after the children are in bed, rather than miss out on spending time with your family.


Encouraging words for mothers from Bruce Robinson

Mums, you are very important when it comes to encouraging good fathering.