How to encourage your daughter

Credit: Neil Pillar and family

Credit: Neil Pillar and family

The number one factor that determines a woman’s confidence in life is the relationship she had with her father. It’s not the only factor. It just comes out as the number one factor and it’s also the same for marriage. The number one factor that determines her likelihood of having a successful marriage is the relationship she had with her father.

It’s scary and complicated

The truth is you need to build confidence and a close relationship with your children from young. If not, they may end up being incredibly rebellious when they become teenagers.

Relationships are obviously a huge factor in how a young woman feels about her self-confidence. Several women talk about the importance of their dads in their career choices and how they encouraged them to aim high. Their fathers encouraged them to reach beyond what they believe they can achieve. There is a relationship between a woman’s confidence and her father; or the lack of confidence that an otherwise competent woman has.

Every man is a father figure to a young girl. The book ‘Daughters and their Dads’ talks about how a father figure can encourage a girl’s confidence, believe in her, and encourage her to respect herself. Stepfathers, uncles, grandfathers, schoolteachers, and sports coaches all can do this. Many women’s lives are really transformed by a father figure.

For example, Margaret Court, a famous tennis player, had her tennis coaches as father figures who encouraged her in her life. She now is a great encourager of people because of the encouragement she received. Any woman out there who has children, especially daughters, should seek father figures for their daughter especially if the daughter’s father either isn’t around or isn’t doing this. It might be the girl’s uncle or schoolteacher. They can have a profound effect, and that is especially the case when the natural father isn’t around.

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