Keep a record

Sometimes our visit with the children, whether on the return home from a stint on site or travelling, or as an access visit, does not go as we would like it to. Why is that? How about writing down some of the good things and some of the areas where it was not so good. This can easily be done after you have parted from the children. It doesn’t have to be long.

Think about why it was good or not good and think of ways to make sure you repeat the good and try another approach at the not so good. Dads don’t have to be perfect – just keep trying to get better.


Making family a priority

Sometimes spending time with your children means sacrificing things you want to do.


Establish ground rules

Agree rules with your partner or ex-partner and your children on unacceptable behaviours and their consequences which apply whether or not they are with you.