Provide a sense of security

“One way I have learnt to empower my children is to father in reaction to the way I was fathered. I remember clearly having my feelings squashed, being belittled and being shamed by my father. I felt it a lot. My heart goes out to kids who get shamed and belittled because I have vivid memories of it myself.” – Doug Aberle, engineer.

  • When you put down others you diminish them rather than building them up. Make your home a ‘no put down zone.’
  • Work to build a relationship with your child that makes them feel safe. Safe to share their thoughts and feelings with you. Safe to be who they are.
  • Consciously find ways to encourage and empower all children you encounter, not just your own.


Play with your children

Don’t just sit and watch your children at play, join in!


Have a shared parenting plan

Discuss and develop a plan with your children’s carer to handle issues that require your participation when the children are not with you.