Role Model – A Fatherhood Legacy Story

By Soumya of Yokine

What do you want your children to remember of you?

I would like my daughter to remember me as her best friend and role model.

What do you remember of your father?

I distinctly remember my father being an occasional smoker. When I got through to University for my Engineering study, he quit smoking in a single day, never to touch it again. Later on, I came to know that he wanted to set a personal example. As I was entering University, so chances would be that I would start smoking due to peer-pressure. But, he set an example and that inspired me a lot. Till today (39 years), I did not touch a cigarette in my life, in order to respect him.

In the early 80s, there was not much scope of playing table-tennis in India. He used to teach me table-tennis on our dining table and later on when I started playing better, he put me under a coach. I went on to play for my state at the National levels. I shall always remember my Dad as a perfect role model for me.

Tips:

Consistent family routine

Establish a set routine for your children that applies whether they are with you or with your partner or ex-partner.

Resources:

Dad Dates

Taking your kids out individually on one-on-one dates is important. It helps your child feel worthwhile when you take time out of your busy work schedule to spend with them. Use this time together to focus on your child - practise listening and encouraging.