That lingering sense

Beginning to get ready for the trip back to site, or to take the children back to their mother or other carer, often happens a day or two before the visit ends. There is the packing but often there is a mood shift as well. How do you want to leave the children feeling? The funny thing is that the feeling you leave people with will normally linger with them and with you.

So the good news is that if you have had a good end to your time with the children, having really connecting with them, then that good feeling is likely to linger.

But the bad news is that if you leave in a huff, then that is the impression that is likely to stay with those you leave behind, even if the rest of the stay has gone well, and so you don’t get too much credit for the good things that have happened.

How you leave has a lot to do with how you want to leave them feeling.

Podcasts:

Encouraging words for mothers from Bruce Robinson

Mums, you are very important when it comes to encouraging good fathering.

Tips:

Game Choice – Who Decides?

This is a short and humorous clip featuring Peter Rowsthorn and the topic of who decides what games to play when spending time with your children.