“The (Sex) Talk”

By the time your child is ready for the sex talk, it’s likely they know a lot about the biology of it all from school or elsewhere.
Instead of focusing on the technical talk, start a conversation about how your child can make the best decisions for themselves.

  • Encourage them to recognise that they are in charge of their own body.
  • Have a conversation about decision-making : talk about ‘reasons’ to be sexually intimate – what are good reasons, what are not so good reasons, what else needs to be considered (their partner, safety, etc)?
  • Talk about what respectful relationships look like, and what ‘consent’ means.
  • Discuss unhealthy relationships – what are some red flags, how can your child recognise pressure or disrespectful treatment, what are some exit strategies they might use if they are ever feeling uncomfortable?

Tips:

Use technology to stay connected during the day

It is now easier than ever to stay connected with your children even when you are at work.

Activities:

Take each of your kids out regularly for ‘dad dates’

‘Dad dates’ (no other adults, no other kids) don’t have to be elaborate or expensive, but what they do need to be is time spent together.