“The (Sex) Talk”

By the time your child is ready for the sex talk, it’s likely they know a lot about the biology of it all from school or elsewhere.
Instead of focusing on the technical talk, start a conversation about how your child can make the best decisions for themselves.

  • Encourage them to recognise that they are in charge of their own body.
  • Have a conversation about decision-making : talk about ‘reasons’ to be sexually intimate – what are good reasons, what are not so good reasons, what else needs to be considered (their partner, safety, etc)?
  • Talk about what respectful relationships look like, and what ‘consent’ means.
  • Discuss unhealthy relationships – what are some red flags, how can your child recognise pressure or disrespectful treatment, what are some exit strategies they might use if they are ever feeling uncomfortable?

Tips:

Benefits of being a dad

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The Life Changing Fathering Book

Professor Bruce Robinson’s book, ‘Fathering from the Fast Lane’, contains stories and tips to help all dads become better dads.