The Thin Red Line

It is important to talk to your child about the challenges they face which may bring negative consequences to their lives in the long term. Listen to some tips by Bruce Robinson, or read the transcript below.

The Thin Red Line

At The Fathering Project we talk about something called the ‘thin red line’: it’s the thin red line between fun and catastrophe.

We want our children to have fun, but it’s quite dangerous out there: a girl wakes up with some guy she barely knows; a friend steps in to help another friend, but because he’s had a bit to drink and so has everybody else, he hits somebody and they hit the ground with a clunk and the next thing you know he’s in jail – there’s been a one punch death. Kids just want to experiment with drugs – they have a shot of something and the next thing you know they’ve got Hepatitis C for the rest of their life.

We want our kids to have fun – they can’t sit at home playing scrabble with mum and dad all night, but there is a thin red line between fun and catastrophe.

I’m going to tell you what I think is the most important thing for kids to avoid that – it’s having the voice of their father in their head. Dad you can’t be there all the time! But you’ve got to be involved in your kid’s life – talk to them about those problems; get them ready for them so that they don’t cross that thin red line.

Tips:

Keep your promises

Don't make promises you can't keep. Only say you will be there if you really can be.

Tips:

Show your children you love them, always

Don’t just spend the fun times with your kids and then withdraw as soon as things get serious – love means sharing the tough times too.