The trap of big presents

Often fathers want to make up for their absence from home by buying gifts for their children.

Remember that the best gift you can give your children is your time and your attention.

Do not make material gift-giving the standard, and if you do buy a present every so often, do not make it a significant outlay. The best gift would be a craft kit or other activity you can do together.

Fathers appreciate it when their children are excited to see them.


Take each of your kids out regularly for ‘dad dates’

‘Dad dates’ (no other adults, no other kids) don’t have to be elaborate or expensive, but what they do need to be is time spent together.


Give Mum a break

Find a way to create space for your wife to take time for herself away from the children.