The trap of big presents

Often fathers want to make up for their absence from home by buying gifts for their children.

Remember that the best gift you can give your children is your time and your attention.

Do not make material gift-giving the standard, and if you do buy a present every so often, do not make it a significant outlay. The best gift would be a craft kit or other activity you can do together.

Fathers appreciate it when their children are excited to see them.


Encourage father-figures to spend time with your kids while you are away

Ask the children’s grandad, uncle, sports coach or other male adult in their lives to make an extra effort to spend time with your kids while you are away.


The value of everyday moments

Your kids will not always want to spend time with you when you have planned. Be open to conversations at any time.