The following is a true story with names changed to protect identities:
Jack (8), Oliver (7), Alana (5) and Toby (2) have, have been deeply impacted by inadequate, unstable parenting, neglect and abuse, ranging from unchanged diapers to witnessing domestic violence, not having enough food to eat, to dreading the festive season. Simon, their dad has been unemployed for years.
Simon found it hard to keep a job. When he did go to work, it was necessary to leave his children with his partner, who was incapable of providing adequate care for them.
After a few traumatic altercations, the children’s case worker assessed the parent’s capabilities and concluded that Simon, was the more aware parent. With substantial assistance from his family, it was Simon who would be the more likely parent to succeed at ‘taking care of the kids’.
He was given an action plan and an opportunity to start over. He was given temporary housing plus timely support from his own parents.
Simon’s deep desire to not lose his kids and to become a stable parent helped him to break the cycle of addiction. But he didn’t know how to be a good father.
For the sake of his children, Simon reached out to The Fathering Project seeking guidance and support to become the father his children deserve. The Fathering Project built a needs-based action plan for Simon ensuring there were appropriate resources and structures to allow him to meet his children’s needs and be a good dad. The plan includes taking care of the children’s essential needs as well as understanding and learning how to engage positively with them.