Eight tips to help raise resilient kids

Resilience is important for everyday life, and helps us to navigate challenges, deal with stressful situations and bounce back in difficult times. Living through a pandemic has certainly contributed to resilience in not only ourselves, but also our children. 

Raising resilient children helps them to become problem solvers and face tough or challenging situations and work to find solutions.

The three important areas of resilience 

  • Skills to cope
    Having skills to solve problems, manage emotions as well as the ability to think through situations and decide on the best action.
  • Support
    Having support from at least one caring adult, friends or another good role model.
  • Self-esteem
    Feeling good about yourself and your ability to take on challenges and try new things

Eight tips to raise resilient kids

  1. Avoid dismissing your child’s challenges. Be open and talk with them at a young age about issues you faced when you were growing up and how you overcame them, i.e. sibling rivalry, sharing, handling change.
  2. Talk about strategies they could use in different situations that may be difficult or challenging, i.e. an argument with a friend, or coping with nerves of an upcoming sports carnival. 
  3. Support them to develop a positive sense of self. 
  4. Don’t accomodate every need to make them comfortable. When we provide certainty and comfort in every situation, we get in the way of our children developing their own problem solving skills. 
  5. Let your kids make mistakes. Letting them make mistakes can be tough as a parent, but it helps kids to learn how to fix their slip ups and make better decisions next time.
  6. Help your child to learn to identify and begin to manage their emotions. Teach them that all emotions are ok. If they’re angry, let them be angry, but help them to move forward from their anger and what the next steps are. 
  7. Support their growing need for independence. If they’re younger, start with the basics like teaching them to care for their own belongings, having them make their bed or do small chores e.g. feeding the pets.
  8. Model resiliency. Children learn by watching you, try to be calm and consistent where possible. If you make a mistake, admit to it and explain how you will do better next time. 

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