Continuing our six-part series on how to father in a blended family, this week’s advice is around how to set up rules and guidelines for your new family.
All kids need some guidelines, so it is important to develop a set of rules with your partner and establish them in the home.
Discussing these new rules should be done together as a team, so everyone feels they were part of the process. As a team you can all agree to work together with your family’s set of rules. Some families put them on the back of the fridge, or in a place where you will see them daily.
“What I did find hard was the question of how to discipline the children. When we moved in together, I backed off when it came to discipline and natural boundaries. I felt like I had to see how my partner did everything, and not really interfere if I thought I would deal with something differently. She said that I should do what I felt was natural, but I didn’t want to be disruptive”. – Stepdad advice
“Prioritise developing a parenting plan. We found that, when we actually talked about it and develop common rules, the kids did a lot better.” Stepdad advice
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