Teenage boys need guidance during these key years to help them transition into manhood. Teenage boys often tend to become argumentative, restless and moody and have tendency to exhibit a certain degree of arrogance. Don’t let this deter you from guiding him and providing the appropriate advice and answers to life’s big questions.
As boys grow older and transition from being a teenager to ‘being a man’ they must understand that ‘being a man’ does not mean they must always be tough. It is important for fathers to help their sons learn to appreciate their masculinity and help them shape it into something good.
- Adjust your parenting to allow your son to develop and share his own opinions and feelings. At the same time, ensure you always keep an eye on his health and safety.
- Encourage them to express emotions. Ensure your son knows that it is okay to make mistakes, feel sad and cry.
- Keep communication open and positive. Try not to avoid communication around uncomfortable topics such as sexuality. Demand maturity with good humour and stay positive.
- Be respectful and listen to your son’s problems and fears. This encourages them to communicate and listen in their own peer groups.
- Teach your son to apologise, show empathy and help others, show good manners and never use or threaten violence. For example, guide with calmness not by yelling at them or attacking them.
- Help your sons find good mentors. Boys need other positive male figures/mentors/coaches in their lives to help them learn skills, responsibility and respect.
- Let him know you are proud of him. Anytime he shows the seeds of being a good man – is considerate, is responsible, is proactive, is compassionate – let him know!