Always allow time to connect with the support that that you need and work toward a healthier you.
June 22 – 26 was World Wellbeing Week, so we’re looking at some top tips for maintaining your wellness as a dad.
Bringing up children is hard work.
It can be physically demanding, requiring at times lack of sleep, skipped or quick meals, and exposure to illness.
It can also be mentally draining, particularly if you and/or your partner have a busy or stressful job.
Check out these tips to make things a little easier on yourself and maintain your health and wellbeing along the way.
As well as being healthy physically, good mental health is very important in helping you be the best dad you can be for your kids.
A big barrier for men can be a sense of needing to cope with all of their problems alone. In fact, seeking help where you need to is brave, selfless, strong and a show of self-respect.
If any part of you is saying “not being able to do this on my own means I am not self-sufficient” or “not man enough,” remind yourself that venting your concerns and seeking help is something a strong, confident, healthy person needs to do.
So, you’ve heard it all before, don’t try cope with everything yourself – here are some tips for reaching out and finding support:
Manage your Mental Wellbeing – a tip from our community, courtesy of rugby great Petero Civoniceva.
“Don’t fill your head with a lot of internal chatter. Just strip it all back and focus on the things you need to do. Stop worrying about all the things you have no control over, and just focus on the things you can control.
This has helped me so much in my life, my family and my game of sport. It helps to strip away your self-doubt, insecurities, and fear, so you can just focus on what you need to do to be the best you can be, and for me it was to father well and play well.
This approach has helped me to focus on the things I need to do to look after my mental wellbeing – it is so important not to let everyday things derail you.”
Make fathering easier for yourself by keeping as fit and healthy as you can.
You know the drill; exercise regularly, eat properly, and get adequate sleep. But often the enemy is TIME.
Use these time-savers to help you be present as a dad, and stay on top of your health:
Put exercise into your wellbeing plan and share it with the kids – a tip from our community, courtesy of Duncan Armstrong OAM:
“This weekend it would be good to get out there with your kids no matter what. Sometimes as dads we just need to get moving in a (any) direction and live in the moment without a great deal of planning ahead.
Don’t think about the effort it takes to get your kids moving in the outdoors, just do it (thank you Nike!).
Great times with your kids and family are literally just a few moments away, so just move into it.
A bike ride, a walk, shoot a few hoops, take them to a skatepark or just throw the footy around. Don’t think too deeply about it, just move and let the good time come to you.”
It’s tempting to put on a brave face and give the impression to your family that you are coping well with work, fathering, or other aspects of your life – even when things are not going great.
Bottling up your anger or frustration can increase your stress levels and lead to a range of problems.
Instead, be honest with your partner, friends and family about how you are going and seek help as needed.
If you or your children are struggling
Kids can call Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800 or Youth Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or you can contact your child’s GP. If you are struggling, call Lifeline on 131 114, or Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636.
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